Happy Lovers day! …..
Another Hallmark Holiday if you ask me. For some it’s a day to get all kissy-faced with our partners and remind us how much we appreciate and love each other, But why all the fuss?
If you actually search the origins of this lovers holiday, you will see that it has a rather dark, brutal and bloody history. However, thanks to Shakespeare and Hallmark, February 14th will never be the same. It will forever be remembered as the modern day of love.
You still either love it or hate it. Love it because prince charming brings you a bouquet of red roses and chocolate covered strawberries every year. Hate it because your lonely and single and your mom didn’t even wish you a Happy Valentine’s Day. For those in a long relationship it’s the perfect day for a wedding proposal. (Perfect? or super cheesy?) I guess if done right and of course if she says Yes, it can be perfect day to pop the big question. Here are some Proposal Do’s and Dont’s to guide you by Michele Velazquez at Huffington Post:
Do think of a way you can surprise her even though a lot of women expect a proposal on Valentine’s Day. Accomplish this by doing something to throw her off. For example, tell her you have a romantic dinner reservation at 7 but instead, right as you are about to leave a huge choir holding candles appears in your front yard and serenades her with your song.
Don’t propose at an expected time. Again, throwing her off is important so the last thing you want to do is to propose over dinner or some other obvious time. Do not have a waiter bring your ring out on a tray or anything predictable. The element of surprise is a must, especially on Valentine’s Day.
Do think about how she would want to look on the day she gets proposed to. Is she the kind of girl that would be disappointed if she were wearing jeans on the big day? If you know your girlfriend would be mortified to have a photographer take a picture of her with no makeup on, make sure she is dolled up for the big moment.
Don’t over-plan. For some reason when men get stressed out, they can overdo things. As a Proposal Planner, I have seen men add too much detail because they just want to make sure it is very special. Keep in mind that you can go overboard. You don’t need singers, dancers, limos, helicopters, flowers, picture frames, guitarists, mariachi bands, jugglers, and more. Just a couple “big” surprises are more than enough and even that is not necessary.
Do think about her personality type when deciding on the proposal idea. Ask yourself if she is the kind of girl who would enjoy a public or a private proposal before you start planning things. If your girlfriend hates to be the center of attention, a public proposal would likely mortify her.
Don’t propose in a creepy way. You should never propose like this but especially not on the day of love. Examples of creepy proposals are faking your own death or scaring her so she can appreciate your heroism later. Proposals should be pleasant, period.
Do consider documenting the proposal. If your girlfriend is the type that loves to share photos on social media or likes to scrapbook, then she will really appreciate you hiring a photographer to capture the moment. If she is camera shy, you might want to skip it.
Don’t hide the ring in a ridiculous place. This includes but is not limited to; in a champagne glass, in a cupcake, in a box of chocolates and last but not least, somewhere you can lose it or easily forget about it.
Do have help. Just as women hire Day of Coordinators for their wedding day, have someone that will help you take care of details so that you can enjoy your day stress-free. Consider hiring a proposal planner or just enlist the help of an organized friend.
Don’t be afraid to be emotional. There is a social stigma that men are not supposed to cry but during a proposal, many men do. Don’t worry about that. On your proposal day, you should be emotional and you should be telling your girlfriend all of the reasons that you can’t live without her. Your emotion will make it even more endearing.
Do laugh if something goes wrong. If something unexpected happens like a dog comes up and takes a bite out of your romantic picnic, don’t sweat it. It will all be part of the proposal story you tell later and it adds character to the event.
Don’t have expectations for how she will react. I have seen so many reactions from women who get proposed to. Some laugh, some cry, some scream, we even have had girls curse! You never know what someone’s reaction will be when they are in shock so don’t feel let down if you don’t get a reaction you thought you would. Just go with the flow and let her emotion come naturally.
There you have it!
If your single and feeling blue, remember today is a festive day of love and that love begins with yourself. Treat yourself to a nice massage, a delicious healthy meal and a good bottle of wine. Send love to your friends and family. Spread the love all around you. And if you are still feeling lonely tonight just remember a great quote some the beloved John Lenon “‘It matters not who you love, where you love, why you love, when you love or how you love, it matters only that you love”
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Good day lovers!